You guys! Christmas is gonna be here soon!!!! Can you even believe it? As Christmas approaches, there is a fair chance your to-do list doubles, or even triples in size. Today, I’m asking you to question your list. Every item on it, who is it for? How does it make you feel?
Here’s the thing, there is a fair chance that there is something on your list that you don’t really want to do. Maybe you don’t want to send Christmas cards, or write a letter, or attend a certain party, or do a work Secret Santa.
Is it Worth It?
So many people just do the list, even if they don’t want to, and all it does it build a guilt and a pressure, and even some animosity and anger or dread. Take a minute and question: Is THIS Item worth it? How does it make you feel? Do you enjoy it? Why do you do it? Do you even want to?
Make A List- Check it Twice
I am HUGE on traditions, especially at Christmas. HUGE. I am all about traditions and have a strong goal to build memories and bring peoples good memories back at Christmas. If I know you’re coming to my house and Christmas and you like ribbon candy then I will track down ribbon candy. If you like ham at Christmas dinner then there will be ham. It gets a bit intense. That said I still keep it reasonable by having my (mental) list of “yes,” “maybes,” and “no way.”
The Yes list includes making my family gingerbread recipe, decorating at least one tree, filling the nut bowl, and creating memories for any guests. These things will happen. HOW they happen will depend on the year. The gingerbread may be decorated and iced, it could even have a theme, or it may be cut and tossed in the cookie jar, but it will be done. The tree may have a big theme and even match the wrapping paper, or it may not. The nut bowl, pretty easy so I just buy nuts, but it may or may not be allowed to empty. I’ve made these traditions flexible. I can feel certain that come hell or high water I can pull these off. We also do Elf on the Shelf. We have a general ratio, our elf seems to just move around about 80% of the time, and 20% of the time he does something “special.” Make sure you get
I dunno. Maybe?
The Maybes include things like making Stollen, seeing a light show, giving everyone their own wrapping paper (you know, all color coded and what-not), sending everyone Christmas cards, or hand-making stacks of ornaments. If all is well, no one is sick, my ADHD doesn’t cause the entire month to get away from me, and the budget allows, then we’ll probably do some of these things. I’ve done stollen from scratch, from a mix, in the bread machine, multiple loaves, every variety of making stollen you could think of. Plus there is the year I did it and my husband accidentally destroyed it. It’s a maybe so it getting done at all is an extra. I’ve sent 40+ cards, 12 cards, 0 cards, and this year just 2 cards.
Side story- Those TWO cards, is because I bought special ones for my parents and my brothers family last year and never sent them. They are really awesome, they fold flat to ship and then a little pressure causes them to pop up into a 3d snowglobe!
No Way- No How
The No list? Well, let’s just say if you ever receive a Christmas letter from me you better check it for clues that I am in trouble and asking for help. My family will not have Christmas photos taken. I tried once, never again. Never again. Also, I am never taking my dog to see Santa, and yes there is a story there. I am almost guaranteed to NOT do anything tagged Christmas on Pinterest. It’s not impossible because lots of things get tagged Christmas, but here’s the thing about these things- They are usually so fad oriented that you won’t miss them if you don’t do them. You probably won’t do them year after year. There’s also a good chance yours won’t look like the picture anyway.
Are They Worth It?
So, are traditions worth it!?!? Generally
What’s Your Take?
Tell me what is your take? What is on your lists for yes, maybe, and no? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.